Forgotten entities

Do you forget stuff ? Like sitting in front of those gates at the airport, as you walk to board the plane you leave something behind! A pen, earphones etc. You never really realize its gone until later. By that time the dear commodity is either someone else's possession, is in the trash, or maybe lying in a cold dark bin of lost and found in the corner of a busy office. Does losing that item change your life in anyway ? What if at a point in life you left behind a part of yourself and just moved on. Oblivious that you are now missing a fragment from yourself you keep walking until something triggers the awareness. Now, I repeat the question, does that change you in anyway ? Had you been any different if you hadn't left it behind ?......We all forget. What from yourself have you forgotten to carry on ? A hope, faith, trait,or a dream maybe ?

The three 'Happiness concepts'

Comparison kills. Dont compare your real life to others life as it appears on social media. Dont compare your life to others even if you know them closely. You dont know what they had to suffer in the past and you dont know what their future holds for them.

When God said he created everyone equal I believe that it also means that he gave us equal challenges, problems and happiness. It may not be apparent to us but if you look at it closely you can find that it holds true pretty well. Here are the three 'happiness concepts' that have always helped me understand and accept reality. They weren't as structured until I sat down to write about them but here's how I've designed them

Past/Present/Future theory

The people you see happy in the present might be the ones who have had a painful past. And someone you see suffering in the present might just have a very prosperous future. So the happiness we as humans experience in our lives is all equal and comparable to others, but its how its distributed through our lifetime that  makes the apparent difference. There's another way to put it as well; there are people who appear to have an entire lifetime filled with sufferings and sacrifices. Sacrifices for their family, their country etc but that is made up by happiness in the hereafter as a reward for their good deeds. So in reality its a win win situation either way.

The distribution of assets

You cant get a perfect life ! You just cant. Perfect is ideal and ideal is not real. Have a friend who has a brand new car, a six figure salary and an uptown home that you've been dreaming of but can't afford ? Well guess what, he/she is also the one who admires your family that he/she doesn't have. What we have in life is ours, it should be valued and not compared. You might not have the ideal job that someone else has, a perfect spouse like your friend, the latest car like your neighbor, or a child like everyone else you know. But what you do have is also something that many others yearn to have. Believe it or not but there are people out there who compare their life to yours just as you do to theirs. No one has everything, and if you think that's not true, think again or look closely.

Individuality

Okay, so you might think "Well he/she might not have the family that I have but the car that I want. Wouldn't it be better if we could trade our lives !? To hell with family, I just want that car". Naah, it doesn't work that way. What we have in our lives is what we are designed for. Some of us are designed for comfort, others for adventure, others for socializing etc. And what I have is what my niche is. If you have a family and not that car its because you deserved it more. Its what you need at that point in time, because inevitably life takes you where you're supposed to be.

All that said. Its human nature to complain and compare but try to break that habit. Train yourself to seek happiness in what you have. Smile at whats yours and also whats not ; learn to be happy for others because you are just as lucky as them, in your own special way :)

 The three factors that I just shared are the few of many that I could write about. I hope I shall be able to write about something like this again

Happy Holidays and Happy Happiness :)

Update # 1 - The Pakistani girl aint in Pakistan no more :(

Okay so this has really been bothering me, my blog is about 'The days in life of a Pakistani girl' and I always posted about life in Pakistan, but now that I've moved, does that kill the entire theme of my blog ? Secondly am I still a girl and not a woman ?

I moved to the US this year, its not that US isn't home to me, it was for many years but getting a one way ticket to here for Karachi was quite painful. I dont know when I'm going back to my friends and that just makes me sad, plus its also nagging me about what this blogs gonna be about now !

The second part about being a girl or a woman, I GRADUATED !! Wooohooo ! So yeah I'm a physician/doctor and I dont think I qualify to be called a girl. It doesn't help though that people around me still think I look like a high school student and have expressed their thought UMPTEEN times. Not funny.

So here's what I've decided. Since Im a Pakistani originally, I can just blog as a Pakistani girl living and enjoying in America and still missing Pakistan. Its gonna be a blend of both east and west :)

As for the girl/woman dilemma, I'm just going to call myself a girl until I get atleast 10 strands of grey hair :D

Re-incarnation

I've been brooding over whether I should be writing another blog entry or not for quite some time. So much has changed since my last post. It doesn't even feel like I'm the same person. I've been on a roller coaster ride since the last post with some really high highs and very low lows. I've experienced life hurl one challenge after the other at me, but I've also had some of the best memories during this time. I wont go into the details of all that happened at this time because one it'll end up being the longest blog entry ever and second, I dont think I'm ready to talk about it here. That said, I have brought myself to write again and I shall continue to do what I loved doing so much. So stay tuned for updates, the Paki girl is back in business...